Creating Moments

I’ll be the first one to admit, I’ve probably spent more than half my life stuck in my head. You know, thinking about all the things I should’ve done or debating whether I could or couldn’t. Mapping out what a situation will look like, or debating the consequences of an action.

C’mon, wouldn’t you agree we all do it to some extent? Many of us live a great story in our heads with a vivid past and a unwavering future. All to often though, when reality hits… it tends to be out of sync with our story. WTF!?

Yea, and to make it worst we keep building that story, giving us reasons to complain about what is, and well complain about what isn’t. Deathly cycle I’d say.

But only if we learnt from the beloved Lion King after Raffiki smack Simba in the head then says “Forget about it, it’s in deee past.” Or the ‘couldn’t of said it better’ quote “Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but gets you nowhere.”

So how do we break this cycle of stories, complaints and headaches? How to break through living out the story in our heads, and instead learn from it and live in the now we have now.

Well there’s isn’t one answer (rarely in life there ever is), but there are techniques; here’s one I’ve been discovering! *Note* I’m not an expert, just a curious mind.

Exercise: Think back to 3 great moments from your past, and then think about 3 moments wished hadn’t happened.

Pretty easy eh. Why? Well our mind likes to think in moments – packets of time where something happens that effects us.

Great so our mind’s think in moments, so what. Well first off we’ve just made created a variable for time, one that, at a primary level, are ‘black and white’. Moments that have happened, and moments that haven’t… that’s all our life is filled with. There’s no longer a fuzzy past or a distant future.. just moments. Some that have happened, and others that have not. Make sense?

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So now it’s time to start thinking in terms of, “It’s time to create a moment!”

Will it be good? Will it be bad? Well you’ll never know unless you create it. So GO! Make a moment!

–> Moment enters world <– great it’s here! How was it? Great success or nerve-racking failure. First off, who cares! Congrats on making a moment. Most women spent 9 months to bring an creation into this world, you just did it now!! #wicked

Look at the moment, back at me. Back at the moment, now to reality.

Let’s face it, at the end of the day the moment to us was either ‘good’ or ‘bad’.

Good? Read here! Nice you’ve just figured out what works! Reflect on what you did, how you behaved, what you said, how you acted. Don’t memorize it ver batim, nor make it into a script. Just take a look at what worked, and what you could do next time to make that moment better.

Bad? Read here! Can’t win ‘em all eh.. or can you? At the surface bad moments probably feel either embarrassing, frustrating, irritating, terrifying, ____ <– ‘add any other negative emotions ending with “ing” here’

Deep down though, these moments are a blessing in disguise. They taught you what doesn’t work, at least for you. Great! No wonder Edison said “have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”. Finding out what doesn’t work is one step closer to what does. PLUS you can’t enjoy the sunshine until you’ve felt the rain!

So go ahead create some moments! Learn from them and move on.

Want to have some real fun? Share what you did with those moments in the comment section below!

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Check out some incredible insight into this concept called ‘Momentology‘ by my cousin Ashton.